The bad habit of belittling others means thinking badly about others or having nothing good to say about others. A person who has this habit always finds faults with others. He has quarrels with others most of the time. He thinks that he is smart and clever. He tries to humiliate them. He will have very few friends.
A belittler never speaks well of others. He does not want others to have good things. He sees only their mistakes. He is not pleased with anything. It is very difficult for such people to be successful in life.
If anyone belittles us we should not be discouraged. Instead, it should drive us to become even better.
There was once a spiritual master. People considered him a man of God. They would come to him to seek his advice and to listen to his teaching. They believed everything he told them. There was this one person always present in the crowd who never missed a chance to say something against the master. He would point out the master’s weak point or mistakes and make fun of him in front of everyone. The other disciples did not like him.
One day this bad man got ill and died. Everyone was happy. They knew that there would no longer be anyone to disturb and criticize the inspiring talks of the teacher. They thought that the master too would be happy. But the teacher was very sad. One of his followers asked him, “Why are you mourning his death? There is no one to oppose you now.”
The teacher replied, “I do not feel sad for someone who has gone to heaven. I am only sad for myself. There will be no one to correct and challenge me. The opinions of this man made me grow. He made me serious about my teaching. He made me prepare well for each talk. There is no one now to take his place.”
The teacher used to have a strong reason to improve on his teaching because the man would oppose him if he did not teach well. His criticisms had helped him change for the better. If we do not get hurt easily we can learn something more from the criticisms we get from others.
One must not belittle others. Perhaps we do it because we are envious of their achievements. When we are envious we are limiting our own joy. Whether someone is better than we are or not, we must learn to appreciate all the good he does. We will then be increasing our joy; we will be a great friend, a great son or daughter, and we will be helping other to spread happiness on earth.
YOU DO NOT BECOME GREATER OR MORE SUCCESSFUL BY FINDING FAULT WITH OTHERS. INSTEAD, EVEN YOU BECOME HAPPIER IF YOU SAY GOOD THINGS ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE.