This article will teach you how to cut her off completely from your life and accept that you’re never getting back! If she didn’t care about you when she was in a relationship with you, why will she now? So stop expecting! It is not only hopeless but self- detrimental. Read these notes carefully:
1. Stop bargaining with your mind
If you discuss making compromises in your head know that such compromises are directed on wards the death of your self-respect, self-esteem and your individuality for constantly getting in a debate in your head. When you start missing her it’s a debate between your mind and your feelings, start using logic,
2. Think of 10 major problems you had with her
And as a person I guarantee you by the time we’re at number 5 you’d be like, “Thank God I’m not with this person anymore!”
3. Make a list of all the things you disliked about her
Be brutally honest; make a list of all the opportunities you came across the things you would have done but couldn’t because the presence of that person somehow contributed greatly to the opposite direction make a list of all the girls you’ve met in your life who are smarter more sensible and nicer than her.
4. Join the gym.
It will help you distract and also will put in self-confidence about the way you feel for yourself.
5. Stop dealing with self-hatred
You’re partially blaming yourself so destroy self-hatred by self-betterment get into a hundred days program so you don’t lose motivation get lazy and give up these day you go to the gym you make progress.
6. One Percent Rule
At 100th day we are at hundred percent!If you miss a day you take one percent off. Do this religiously and take pictures every weekend so you can keep a track of your progress appreciate the people in your life who have always been there for you call your mom and have a conversation with her for at least fifteen minutes daily. Why? Because right now you feel unloved without realizing that there are people who love you unconditionally and will do anything for you understand and accept that all this while you’ve been appreciating love coming from the wrong person.
7. Tell your friends directly that you need their help to move on
Don’t get into any emotional details just give them directions. They need to accompany you to the jump, be a part of your hundred days journey, tell them it’s their job to make sure you don’t miss a single day, it’s their job to stop you immediately the moment you mention your ex and are about to share your feelings about the whole experience. None of that let out your pain.
8. Whenever it hits you secure a corner
Throw away the phone because that’ll be the time your brain stops working and you might end up calling that person, secure a safe spot and cry for as long as you want to, there is nothing unmanly about tears! after crying you will feel much better and kind of happy.
9. Don’t listen to any romantic songs.
10. Don’t get manipulated into feeling something only when it comes from the inside.
11. Stop talking about your ex
Telling every person you meet about your tragic love story. You’re only clicking the refresh button. They’re going to sympathize with you for a moment and then leave. You will be the one thinking about her for the rest of the day getting tortured, reconnect little from your past and make efforts to meet new people if you’re at your workplace, strike up conversations with your colleagues since they are not personal friends and no chat about your life, they’ll be talking about office, politics or Rebel about the boss or even tell you some funny stories.
12. Get out of your comfort zone
The point is in relationships people don’t really feel the inclination to invite more people into the life that they live in the illusion of completeness so you need to change your previously acquired habits and get out of your comfort zone keep yourself engaged when you are alone for example let’s say you take the metro to work every day you don’t have to sit there idly for 20 minutes because the foremost thing going in your head right now is a recent tragedy, so read a book! Not necessarily a novel, take a book on your favorite subject or your area of interest it will not only keep you occupied but increase your knowledge. If you drive listen to audio books you need to realize one simple fact in order to be complete you don’t need another person, get as many crushes as you can, fill up your folders not with porn but with real celebrity crushes, watch their interview fall in love, check out their pictures, admire their beauty, since they are celebrities your mind knows the love you feel is actually not real so they serve as great distraction. The reason they are doing this is you’re appreciating beauty right now the only definition of beauty you have starts and ends with this person, so in order to end that you will have to see how much beauty there is in the world.
Look at all the Victoria’s Secret models, the pop stars, actresses, go out as much as you can and just look at people until finally you’ve understood the fact that there are very too many beautiful people in the world your ex is just another person the same exercise will also help you get rid of the sexual fixation you have with her.
By traveling you see so much of the world unknown to you which introduces to you the insignificance of your existence in any other situation. In your situation that’s exactly what you need to experience, your world revolves around this person right now in the face of thousands of people from different walks of life, you realize how insignificant your problem really is and that will consequently make you feel much better. Except that you’re an addict of this person like every addict on this planet. To conquer addiction you first have to recognize and accept the disease.