‘’Long-distance relationships can be hard to handle, but follow these tips and you will feel like they are living right next door
No one’s ever said that long distance relationships are easy, but the distance doesn’t have to ruin your relationship either. With the right commitment and communication, long distance relationships can actually be more stable than geographically close relationships. Simple adjustments to your attitude and lifestyle can help you keep your loved one in your life.
Stay in contact
Since you won’t be seeing each other in person, it’s important to establish and maintain an emotional connection as often as you can. These don’t always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Frequent communication, no matter how minor, will show that you care enough to put in the time and effort into the relationship and its easier to keep up to date with each others lives. If you allow large gaps to pass by, your every day experiences fade into the background, and you will have to start from scratch every time you speak.
Support each other, even over the distance
Be there for your partner if your partner is even in trouble, hurt or for whatever reason. You need to make yourself available to help so your partner knows you care. If your partner ends up dealing with important issues alone, your partner will eventually not need you. Interdependence refers to the willingness to act against your own self-interest for the benefit of your partner or for your relationship. Instead, supporting each other creates an interdependence that is crucial for a long distance relationship.
Trust in a relationship is vital, regardless of distance. Try your best to be faithful and avoid temptation. If you do make a mistake, it’s especially important to be honest and tell your partner the truth in cases where lying would benefit you.
Be committed to each other
Be open and honest by volunteering private information. You should both be morally committed to each other, continuing the relationship because of personal values, not because of social pressures. Personal values include beliefs like “staying faithful is part of my identity.” Social pressures involve the perception of society’s approval or disapproval.
Make each other feels special
Try to do little things that let the other person know that you care. You may write love letters and send them in the email. Or, send small gifts, cards, or flowers for no reason. It’s easier than to ever find ways to send almost anything to your partner. Don’t feel as though you can send something that makes a grand gesture. The little, frequent things are just as important as making the person feels special on special occasions.
Focus on the positives of the distance, such as the ability to persue your interests, hobbies and carrear objectives. Realize that the distance will also push both of you to be more creative when it comes to communicating and expressing your feelings. Look at this as a chance to test your communication skills and emotions.
Avoid “dangerous” situations
If you already know that going to a club or going and drinking with your group of friends late at night will displease your partner, ten you should either do not do it or tell your partner beforehead so as to reassure him/her. Don’t be careless about this sort of matter because a partner is only going to be extra worried and of course very upset, because you are putting him/her in a position where he/she feels lacking in control.
Be Honest with each other
Talking about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It’s better to look at the problem during it’s initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.
Know each other’s schedule
It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy and when he/she is free so that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time. You would not want to disturb your partner when he/she is in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting. Know te small and big events that are taking place in each other’s life.
Keep track of each other’s social media activity
Like each others photos on facebook and instagram. Tweet each other. Tag each other. Share things on each other’s walls. Show that you care. Be cool about stalking each other.
Video call whenever possible
Because looking into eachother’s eyes and hearing eachother’s voice can make everything feel alright again.